Self-Care on a Shoestring Budget
Self-care wasn’t even a word, or a thing, in the 70s, 80s OR 90s. I can’t recall it creeping its way into modern-day lexicon until perhaps about 3 or 4 years ago. At least no one I knew was chatting about it or extolling its virtues. My mom or her friends never discussed self-care, nor did my grandmother. But it has to become a thing; it even has its own hashtag. That long-suffering, beast of burden, the mommy-martyr trope is BS. Get that out of your head right now!
Moms are some of the MOST bustling, energetic people on earth. We take care of our families and our homes, but when can we find time to take care of ourselves?
Mommies are the central canal of this whole operation. But it’s hard, even with an amazing support system of helpful husbands, granny nannies, hired nannies, and/or a network of mommy friend. Unfortunately, not everyone has the financial wherewithal to splurge on a Mediterranean cruise with the girls or some other such elaborate getaway. But ladies, we must find a way to take care of ourselves. We have to reboot periodically like any other functioning machine!
Even if it’s just a couple of odd hours in the day where you do nada, obligations, or a hooky day. Do it! You will feel and be better for the family. Whether you’re a career mom, a stay-at-home mom (not all stay-at-home moms lived charmed stress-free lives!) or a Mompreneur, these simple self-care recommendations will do you a world of good. All ringing in under $500. Feel free to mix, match and remix.
Find a fabulous inexpensive hotel, preferably where you can rack up some points and preferably with a pool! You can use Priceline to find a less expensive rate at a 4-star or better property. Most hotels will have you checking in 3:00 pm. Leave a quickly prepared meal for the hubs (or partner) and kiddies and head on out, with a warning not to call you unless someone is bleeding or unconscious. He can handle the child pick up and drop offs. You can also opt for a late check out so you can comfortably lounge around until it’s time for next day child pick up.
Order delicious room service, watch your favorite movies (especially bad rom-coms or foreign flicks that the rest of the family hate!) doze on and off, whatever makes you feel happy and comfortable at that moment. When I stayed at a hotel for a review I had to write I only mentioned to two people my whereabouts; my mother (only because she keeps my kiddo and just in case of an emergency) and my BFF, so she could join me for dinner. I desired no phone calls, no pop-up guests or no offers of “company” (single gals get those offers -pfft!).
Sprawled out, I slept like a baby in a comfy king size bed! Also, if room service isn’t in the budget, you can always bring your preferred snacks and order delivery via Uber Eats or direct delivery.
If you can get by with two nights, by all means, go for it! Hotel stays range from about $150-250 depending on where you decided to stay, the length of your visit, food and whether you valet or self-park.
The value of therapy is priceless. Consider an intimate conversation with a licensed therapist. Chat about whatever is on your mind, they get paid to listen to you. No interruptions. No judgment (hopefully). No unsolicited or off-the-mark advice. You don’t have to be crazy or depressed for a therapy session; this is your me time to be unapologetically selfish, unedited and undiluted. Therapy can be a healing process for those of us who are just merely overwhelmed. Sort out your feelings, and hopefully, you can discover a strategy that will encourage you to continue to juggle, prioritize, delegate or simply just set some balls aside.
Most therapists about $100-$150 per session
Afternoon delight, this is a win-win.
You and the significant other can take a passionate afternoon for yourselves. Send the kiddies to aftercare to buy some alone time. Have a lovely, leisurely lunch – or not – then ya know, get to adulting. Get naughty with it, have some grown-up entertainment time satisfies you both. Walk around stark naked, engage in role play, christen the tree house, a new room or just get a room. Erotic time is essential in any relationships. Jolly romp lifts my mood and supplies me with a burst of energy every time.
Just do it! Literally.
Costs vary. Make it what you want.
A lovely date night
I lay no claim to being a certified relationship guru, but I do know that valuable solo time with your partner is crucial. Adult conversation is just right to have; sometimes we lose sight of our own, adult lives. Reclaim and maintain your identity as an individual and as a growing couple.
Self-care also implies providing yourself the reservation to be who you are outside of motherhood. Use your planned date night to recognize each other and be unencumbered, even if it’s just for a few hours. Again, don’t let finances be a hindrance to your experience; seek cheap eats or a walk in the park. Find a cozy trail at sunset or have an evening picnic; it’s really just about quality time with each other.
$30 and up
Spa or pamper day
A relaxing spa or a day of pampering can be perfection option, besides traveling. Depending on your mood, you can include your girls or your mate. Consider a half day in the morning then treat yourself to lunch. Include a facial, an intimate body scrub, a special body wrap, a mani-pedi, a 60-minute massage or sit in the hot sauna. Just fantastical; you will be ready for the world.
Approximately $250 and up, depending on location and services.
Groupon has daily packages and deals.
Reclaim claiming your time and yourself! Remember, self-care doesn’t mean you’re selfish; make it your mantra. Write it on a sticky note. Leave a daily reminder on your smartphone or computer calendar. Remind yourself to take care of you too, in addition to everything and everyone else.
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