If this article were written just twenty years ago many people would gawk at the idea, but in 2017 it’s a little less taboo. With famous celebrities like Will Smith and Jada Pinkette Smith, Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel, and Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher, allegedly in open relationships, today this new relationship style seems to be more in the public eye. The term “open relationship” became popular in 1972, when authors Nena and George O’Neill wrote the book “Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples,”. The book, which focused mostly on emotional openness, became a best seller.
Even today many women are nonnegotiable when it comes to pushing the boundaries of a monogamous relationship, but there are many more who are open to the idea of multiple sexual partners, than in the past.
Jealousy, anger, and fear are common emotions felt during some point of an open relationship. Sometimes one partner is ready and willing to explore the benefits of inviting a new or multiple lovers into a relationship, while their partner may not be as open to the idea. In some cases it’s something that just happens where one partner makes a connection with someone outside the marriage or feels the need to continue sexual relations out side the marriage. With the latter, its typically something that has been discussed previous to getting married.
Actress Mo’nique is known for having an open relationship and over the years she has been ridiculed for it. In an article printed in Essence Magazine in October 2016, Mo’nique stated, “We’ve been conditioned to believe that if you sleep with somebody [other than your spouse], that’s adultery.” Her statement led many to question why she even got married in the first place.
That’s a question people in a monogamous relationship are wondering. What’s the attraction to having multiple partners, and why commit to marrying someone if you just step out on them anyway. Why not just get divorced. or why even bother marrying in the first place. From the perspective of someone in a polyamorous lifestyle a healthy balance is important and asking your partner to be everything in every way is neither realistic or fair. In recent years movies and TV shows depicting couples who are in open relationships like the 2002 movie Swingers, 2008 drama Swingtown, and 2015 Reality TV show on A&E, Neighbors with Benefits, have received mixed reviews and tend to not last long on the air. So is this a reflection of our current moral compass?
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