Every April America’s favorite pastime starts a new season and finds its way into homes across the nation. Fans pull out their favorite team gear and prepare for Opening Day–bright lights, beer, hot dogs and the smell of, sinful, cinnamon sugar almonds fill the air!
Children pull out their baseball mitts in hopes of catching fly balls popping up from the field.
However, in February, my world changes! The game of Baseball charges into my household; demanding my husband’s life and off to Spring Training, he goes. What’s the disturbance; the wives of professional athletes have it easy, right?
Baseball life is far harder than what most would imagine and, often, one of the most humbling experiences. Baseball season marks new journeys and transitions for our family and– many– other baseball families. Let’s be real; I turn my husband over to the world. Eight to nine months out of the year my husband showcases his God-given talents for baseball lovers to see.
His career commitments lead to the weight of me maintaining our family. I want to give you a glimpse into the game that you don’t see and debunk some of the “Wives and Girlfriends” stereotypes contributed by Reality Stars.
Stereotype #1-Trophy Wife
When my husband and I started dating; I felt like a piece of my identity had been misplaced. Seriously, my character became entwined with baseball. My friends immediately referred to me as the “baseball wife; they even bought me baseball-related gifts, it was like never maintained a Master’s degree or am–now– a Ph.D. candidate.
Hold up! Do you not know me anymore? I’m not just a beautiful face sitting in the stands. Within 6th seasons I have met many baseball wives; these women are dentists, nurses, lawyers, neurologists, counselors, career-driven women. With our husbands having such an unpredictable occupation, a few of us face the challenging decision to give up our careers.
Stereotype #2-Louboutin’s, Louis Vuitton and Diamond Clubs.
As a woman, we all appreciate elegant possessions, but we aren’t trying to showboat around the ballpark in high-end fashion trends.
Our men play 142 games during the season; 1-4-2! My husband will make it to the ballpark at 12:00 p.m., depending on the outcome of the previous game. Late night arrivals home, just to only do it all over again. Date nights are obsolete (unless there is an off day which is equivalent to waiting for leap year; exhausted physically, most of the time our husbands want to sleep in). In turn, there are days I dress up and head to the ballpark because I want to feel sexy, it’s fun, and I am eye candy for my man!
Stereotype #3-The wives of the players don’t get along.
Yes, some women are attracted to the glitz and glam, but baseball generated a sisterhood of women who are experiencing similar situations. We discuss the challenges of the industry, and we are adapting to being the only parent during the season. We arrange sleepovers, organize community service events, family fun days and fundraisers. During the lonely nights, we appreciate the support from each other.
Stereotype #4- Our children are brats.
I take my child to the ballpark every chance that I get! My daughter interacts and enjoys other children who understand and cope with not seeing their fathers for weeks.
Stereotype #5- There is no crying in baseball.
I cry for my husband; he may not see the tears falling from my eyes, but overall, they are tears of joy. I am thankful that my husband is living out his dream; making his Major League debut and I’m right by his side. Many athletes and their families go through similar situations; we are the support system. In the baseball world, you must be comfortable being alone, exploring new places and be highly independent. It is not always the “glamorous life” that reality TV wants it to be.
MY LIFE as HIS WIFE is all about ADAPTING.