LaTina Webb lives by the sentiment that life hurts and music heals. Born in Blue Island, IL, raised in Chicago, and educated in Arlington, TX, LaTina lives in Los Angeles working as a professional singer and songwriter. Her up-tempo pop sound and chameleon-like harmonies have shared the stage with multi-platinum artists like Barry White, Brandy, Gwen Stefani, Justin Timberlake, Macy Gray, Eric Benét and Jodi Watley. For more than 20 years, she has traveled the planet singing with neo-soul, R&B crooner Maxwell and will be back on tour with him this summer.
Also, LaTina released her sophomore album “Prediction Missives” this spring which is available on iTunes and latinawebb.com.” LaTina’s first big break was joining the international tour of the legendary El DeBarge. But her greatest and longest performance is as the dynamic mom of a teenage daughter, Emma.
MM: Hey LaTina! Thank you again, for sitting down with Millennial Mom Magazine. I’m a huge fan and admire your work.
LaTina: Thank you, this means so much to me.
MM: What is your definition of a Millennial Mom?
LaTina: My definition would be a mom who represents the present, the here and now, [who possesses] centuries of knowledge from her ancestors combined with intuition to guide her into the ever-changing future. [We’re] going about our daily lives, navigating as gracefully as possible while multitasking. [We’re] grabbing life like a ninja, at any given moment ready to assess and make decisions the best way we know how through strength, through love, through knowledge, through progress.
MM: Your daughter is beautiful. Tell us a little bit about her.
LaTina: My Daughter is 19. She’s a student; she likes animals, she plays the guitar, which she taught herself on the Internet, likes to cook and bake. She enjoys traveling and nature.
MM: Do you think it’s easier or harder to be a mother now than it was when you were raised?
LaTina: I think it’s much harder and will continue to get harder for moms even after our generation. Technology is constantly progressing, and our kids are smack dab in the middle of it in our lifetime. It’s incredibly challenging to keep up. Our kids are exposed to a lot during vulnerable times in their young lives. There is so much at our fingertips in today’s world. Good or bad, all of life is in our face every day, 24/7. The reactions that sometimes come along with such rapid technology growth manifest in ways we are not exactly, on the spot, prepared for. Things change [over] time as well as you and I.
MM: Share a day in your world.
LaTina: It varies, but typically when I’m not touring and sometimes when I am it involves me doing something for myself, my well-being, something for or with my kid, for or with my husband and for someone else that I know or may not know, all while chipping away at my music career and creating my brand every day.
MM: How do you balance touring and motherhood?
LaTina: I have been lucky enough to have my husband to help over the years. My daughter came with me on the road a few times when she was younger. I’ve also been lucky to have had a few caregivers on and off the road here and there. I just did what I needed to do when I could. When I was home, I stayed active during my daughter’s education and was involved at her schools over the years. There would be times where I would have a show in one city one day and would come home for her birthday the next, make her favorite chocolate cake and would have to be back at work the following day. Or, have a show in town and have to get up that morning and go to a parent-teacher conference. Not much sleep for the Millennial mom (laughing out loud). But you do everything you can, when you can, always out of love.
MM: What’s the best thing about being a mother?
LaTina: You love more than you ever would imagine loving anybody in this entire world.
MM: What’s the one thing you have handled differently as a mother, compared to your mother?
LaTina: Every parent has their own way, and every child has their own way of learning, but I have tried alternative methods when it comes to discipline.
MM: What’s a funny moment you shared with your child?
LaTina: When my daughter was about five she woke up one morning to get ready for school, and she came to me and said, “Mommy, I have this weird thing on my chest.” I looked at it and it, looked like a lesion, so I called the doctor right away. When we saw the doctor, we all discovered together that it was an old dirty piece of gum stuck to her chest (shaking her head and laughing out loud).
MM: What was the hardest part about being a parent with your career?
LaTina: The hardest part is balancing the two. As a parent, we are making caring, conscientious decisions daily. Always thinking of your children and striving to make sure that they have what they need, as well as, taking care of what you need. I believe that it is vital for women to have careers or be involved with other inspiring projects that enrich their lives. It’s almost like the analogy of putting on your life vest first to help put on the life vest of others. We have to do things for ourselves. We are better moms for it. When you become a mother, you don’t stop becoming you. It can be a juggling act, but I have been very fortunate that [good] timing and the universe have been gracious to me. I have somehow been able to become more open by listening to the flow of my own life. It was hard to have traveled a lot, and taking my daughter on the road with me a few times was an option, but most of my traveling was done when my daughter was older. I was fortunate to be able to be home with her for most of her younger years.
MM: Have you ever thought, gosh, I can’t do this?
LaTina: That’s funny because I had my daughter when I was 23 years old. I was right in the middle of discovering who I was as an artist. I had just begun writing songs on my guitar, finding my own sound. And when I [discovered] that I was expecting I initially was afraid and a bit apprehensive about raising a child at that time. I thought to myself, for a moment, I can’t do this, I’m 23 years old. In my head, the order of operations was to go as so: career, marriage, kids. … once I decided in my mind that I could raise a child and raise a career, there was no stopping me. There was no doubt in my mind ever again. While in the beginning stages of creating my career… I had a child and later got married to my now husband of 10.8 years who has been there all along since my daughter came into the picture. That’s the way we count it. Eight years married but prior to our marriage, we were together for 10. But the total of those two numbers sums up our time together. I’ve always had a very optimistic approach to life and circumstances. I like to do my best and make an honest effort. Love worked out for me as oddly as I never imagined.
MM: Do you think being married with children is any better than unmarried?
LaTina: No difference. I’d like to think from a parent’s point of view as long as the parents are communicating and are loving and supportive, even while not being together, that child has all the beautiful opportunity to thrive. There is no set formula. This is a new day — new millennial times.
MM: What advice would you give other women about balancing motherhood and a career?
LaTina: Not sure what the perfect situation is, and quite honestly I don’t believe there is, but I would just do the best you can for your child and don’t forget to love yourself along the way. Learn to love and nurture yourself as much as you love and nurture your child. You need this to balance motherhood and a career. And don’t be too proud to ask for help. No man’s an island. You can’t do it all by yourself! You need a support team for balance.
MM: What was your greatest discovery about being a mom?
LaTina: It’s [like the book] from Dr. Seuss (she chuckles), Oh, the Places You’ll Go! What a journey it has been so far. I have learned so much about myself, and again I have never experienced a love like this before. Just imagine loving someone so much that you would risk your life without question just to try and protect them. A mother’s love for their child is honestly one of the most beautiful of all loves. And until I became a parent, I was not completely aware of the level of love my mom has had for me all my life.
MM: What is the one thing you never had that you want for your daughter?
LaTina: I wanted her to have two loving parents. Just to know that both her parents love her and support her and are there for her through her journey in life.
MM: Any regrets or mistakes you learned from?
LaTina: Plenty, and I’m still learning every day. You do your best and learn from your mistakes along the way.
MM: Anyone special you’d like to thank for helping you through parenthood?
LaTina: My loving husband. He is also my friend. He supports me wholly, and I thank him and the consistently supportive, amazingly loving friends in my life. Thank you, guys. I love you.
MM: Anything else you would like our readers to know about motherhood?
LaTina: Don’t give up if it seems tough. Try and learn something new every day about yourself from your children. Let them think they’re leading the way, watch their backs… It’s their process of learning. And, always love them even through the roughest moments of parenting. Also, once a parent, always a parent. They will always call you mom and they will always be your babies. Even when you’re 105!
MM: Thanks for sitting with us girl, from one mother to another keep going!strong! You are definitely a Millennial Mom on a Mission.