As an adult, looking back on my childhood; I now understand the disciplinary actions and conversations that took place. As a child, we all have experienced conflict with our teachers, peers and our siblings. Reflecting back, my mother never automatically took me or my brother’s side. She always took the time to listen to the whole story, evaluated the situation, and respected each perspective. This use to anger me! I’d often question, “Why is she always taking up for other people?” or “Why doesn’t she ever, believe me?”. It’s not that my mother didn’t believe me or have my back, but she respected the perspectives of others and had empathy on their outlook of the situation.
Fast forward, I’m now a mother of a 10-year-old daughter and I find myself doing the same thing as a parent during conflicts; listening to all sides and taking the time to understand the feelings and perspective of others. “Perspective”, a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view. As a mother and entrepreneur, it’s important to understand people and be open to their opinion. Understanding a person’s point of view doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to agree with what they believe or what they say. But you should respect their opinion or facts.
Social Media, or should I say Pandora’s box, has given individuals the platform to express their views amongst millions of other views. Many people argue that Social Media is dangerous and distractive. I agree with this, to an extent, but I also think that Social Media is a meaningful platform that invites us into the minds of strangers and their perspectives. We should respect that, not argue and become angry at a person; because they state a fact or an opinion that you don’t favor.
What’s dangerous is that millions of people have a touch of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and have no idea. What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Well, these are people who may come across as conceited, boastful or pretentious. They often monopolize conversations. They belittle or look down on people that they perceive as inferior. They feel a sense of entitlement — and when they don’t receive special treatment, they may become impatient or angry. Scary, right?
We have to take the time to teach our children, not agree, but respect the opinions and perspective of others. For example, the child that lives in the five-bedroom home with both parents, attending a private school may have a different view of life than the child that lives in the two-bedroom condo with their single father. Although each child’s reality is different, no one is better than the other and their reality is their truth!
All children grow up to be adults (duh!), so shouldn’t we be teaching our child the importance of respecting another person’s perspective? Imagine if all adults understood empathy. Being aware of the feelings and emotions of other people. They say it’s the key element of Emotional Intelligence.
We should teach our children to understand what others are experiencing as if we were feeling it ourselves; this is essential for your child’s growth. Let’s be careful and not raise a bunch of narcissistic or rude ass adults.