When Life Gives you Lemons, Squeeze the HECK out of them.
Even as a little child, we had dreams and aspirations that we wanted to accomplish. With age comes change. Goals change based on our growth and new desires. As an adult, we would like to think we have everything together, at least enough, so nobody knows we don’t.
I was a teen mom at 19 and married to someone I had dated since I was 16. Knowing that was the life for me, I never saw anything else in my future. But, after having another child and spending some time apart from my husband, I realized we were better off as friends.
So at the age of 22, I had two kids and a divorce under my belt, as well as a bankruptcy. I met a guy, and things started going well. A little while later he proposed, and I happily accepted as I never dreamed of being with anyone else but him. Time passed, and the marriage got called off a month before the wedding. (Yes, I thank God for unanswered prayers.)
Planning a wedding that was never going to happen was so embarrassing to me, to have gone through bridal showers and all the steps, just not to have a wedding and gorgeous dress hanging in my closet. Another lemon. But yet, every situation has a lesson and something that will continue to shape us into the woman we become the next day.
With reconciliation of the relationship and a new goal for marriage (again), I purchased a stunning six bedroom house with the intention of becoming a family in it. I bet you know where I’m going next.
Why is it that my long-term relationships end up with us better off as friends? What am I doing or not doing to add to this outcome, and how in the world can I change it? Because after all, I’m planning a life for my two beautiful children that look up to me.
One of the biggest lemons I have faced in life is selling the house that was supposed to be forever. I have worked extra hours for things to fill it with, paint to make it pretty and even things we didn’t need to have around as well. And now? I am selling all of this stuff for less than half of their value just to dispose of the house and prepare for the next adventure life brings us.
Instead of laying around, feeling sorry for myself and this lemon, I chose to squeeze what I could out of the situation and remind myself that it is just a house. Any place can be home with the right people in my life.
As Millennial Moms, there are so much more expectations from our children to be like their friends and have more material things. But we know in our heart that none of this stuff matter at the end of the day.
I decided that my opportunity in life was to learn to use all my lemons as a main ingredient for my future, learn from them, grow from them, and embrace what life sends my way.
So, my advice to anyone dealing with lemons – establish standards for personal relationships, for your children, for yourself. Know your worth as a person and stick to it.
In the midst of letting go of the past and embracing yourself and your children, you can find the peace that surpasses understanding. You can find joy in those moments of love and happiness and not in material things. You can also find a better understanding of life in general.
Best wishes to all the Millennial Moms out there. Remember to squeeze your lemons and make everyday count!